Talking to Children About Trauma

Trauma is a difficult topic to talk about, but it is important to do so in a way that is age-appropriate and supportive. Here are some tips for parents:

1. Initiate the conversation. Don't wait for your child to come to you. Let them know that you are there to talk and that you want to understand what they are going through.

2. Be calm and reassuring. Your child needs to feel safe and supported when they are talking about their trauma. Avoid getting emotional or upset, and focus on being a listening ear.

3. Use age-appropriate language. Tailor your conversation to your child's age and understanding. Be honest, but don't go into too much detail.

4. Answer their questions. Your child may have a lot of questions about what happened. Be honest and direct in your answers, but don't overwhelm them with information.

5. Validate their feelings. Let your child know that their feelings are normal and that they are not alone. Let them know that it is okay to be scared, sad, angry, or confused.

6. Encourage them to express their feelings. There are many ways for children to express their feelings, such as talking, drawing, writing, or playing. Encourage your child to find a way to express themselves that feels comfortable to them.

7. Be patient. It may take time for your child to process what they have been through. Be patient and understanding, and continue to offer your support.

If you are concerned about your child's reaction to a traumatic event, it is important to seek professional help. A therapist can help your child understand and cope with their feelings, and develop healthy coping mechanisms.

Here are some additional resources for parents:

• The National Child Traumatic Stress Network: https://www.nctsn.org/

• The American Academy of Pediatrics: https://www.healthychildren.org/

• The Jed Foundation: https://www.jedfoundation.org/

Talking to your child about trauma can be a difficult conversation, but it is an important one. By following these tips, you can help your child heal and move forward.